The Ask-Twice Neighbourhood
There is a question we ask one another constantly: “How are you?” And there is an answer we give almost automatically: “Fine.” Most of the time, that's perfectly fine. But sometimes it isn't true. Sometimes behind “fine” is loneliness. Or exhaustion. Or worry about money. Or a difficult morning. Or grief. Or simply the feeling that life has become a little too heavy. So today I'd like to suggest another tiny habit for NDG. Ask twice. Not everyone. Not every time. But when something tells you that the first answer might not be the whole answer. The First Question Is Polite “How are you?” “Fine.” The second question is different. “No, really. How are you doing?” Suddenly the conversation has changed. You aren't demanding an explanation. You aren't trying to fix anything. You are simply communicating: I wasn't just being polite. I actually care about the answer. And sometimes that is enough to open a door. We Don't Always Need t...